In many parts of Africa and Asia, conservatism is deeply embedded in our cultures. While it has its advantages, it can sometimes hinder meaningful communication and limit personal or collective growth. Being conservative often means holding back, but when it comes to expressing our thoughts—whether in business, relationships, or everyday life—it’s essential to strike a balance.
Imagine the stress a mother endures when her infant cries without being able to explain what’s wrong. Should we, as adults, carry that same inability to communicate effectively? Open communication is more than a skill; it’s a cornerstone for understanding, trust, and progress.

The Cost of Silence
Excessive conservatism often leads to wrong assumptions, deception, or even hypocrisy. Couples can live together for years without truly knowing each other. Friends and colleagues might fabricate stories in their minds rather than seeking clarity. Some would rather endure discomfort, or even pain, than speak the truth.
Adulthood demands the courage to say what you mean and mean what you say. Holding back creates barriers that lead to confusion, tension, and missed opportunities.
A Lesson in Clarity
A few years ago, an African company proudly advertised itself as the leading brand. One day, a White man visited with the intention of patronising the business. Upon arrival, he was disappointed by its modest size and decided to leave. When asked why, he pointed out the problem: the company’s exaggerated claim in their advertisement felt deceptive.
The truth is that people often visit leading brands not just for their services but for the overall shopping and learning experience. His candid feedback, though uncomfortable, was an opportunity for the company to refine its messaging and align its claims with reality. Without his honesty, the company might have continued losing potential customers without knowing why.
When people hesitate to speak up or ask questions, progress stalls. Consider this: How much better would life be if we simply communicated openly and respectfully? Would employees take their roles more seriously? Would there be less divorce or infidelity? Would people prioritise others’ well-being more? Honest conversations foster trust and build stronger relationships, whether personal or professional.

Conservatism Redefined
Conservatism isn’t inherently bad. Its value lies in its thoughtful application—balancing respect with honesty and learning to communicate effectively. Being mindful of how we express ourselves, while staying true to our values, can transform relationships and foster growth.
Overcoming the wrong side of conservatism means choosing clarity over silence and growth over fear. It’s about creating spaces where people feel heard, respected, and understood—whether at home, in business, or in society at large. Silence may be golden, but not when it blocks progress and connection.
What are your experiences with conservatism and outspokenness? What would you like to tell your spouse, employer, employee, or friends today?